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Sept - Oct 2011
The Newsletter for Bariatric Patient Education and Motivation

Opportunities Are All Around Us

By Pamela Kuehl, LPC


One Sunday morning as I headed down the stairs to exercise, my 2 year old came out from her bedroom. Of course the first words out of her mouth were, “Mommy where are you going?” I told her I was going to exercise. As usual she followed behind. As I headed to the basement, I was thinking to myself what a “disaster” this was going to be. Little did I know the “opportunity” that was about to unfold. Here are some tips from what my 2 year old taught me that day:    

  1. Cheerlead yourself or allow others to do so.  In her cute 2 year old voice she started clapping and shouting “Go Mommy, Go!”  There I was on the elliptical thinking to myself, “Can I do this today?”  This moment helped to remind me that sometimes we need to let others “cheerlead” us along the journey, and other times we need to do it ourselves. 
  2. Experience meltdowns.  Life is full of ups and downs.  Sometimes we just need to experience the meltdown and get on with life. 
  3. Think outside the box.  Stop and think about your presumptions and assumptions with the situation and then think of the opposition.  Opposite thinking allows us to see the “bigger picture” or other alternatives. 
  4. Don’t assume. I “assumed” this was going to be a disaster and so the negative thought roller coaster began. Assumptions are judgments in disguise.  Allow yourself to let go of assumptions and judgments that place constraints on you and hold you back from success.   
  5. Setting an example.  You never know who is watching you.  It might by your kids, spouse, other family, or a neighbor.  By modeling positive self-care behaviors you are showing others you care about your health and well-being. 


Many times in life we sell ourselves short before we allow the “opportunity” to unfold.  As quoted by Dr. Seuss, "You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go..."