3 Lies to Stop Believing About Yourself
By Michelle Sennett, BSW
I work with many bariatric patients and often hear their stories about their weight loss journeys. As I listen, I pay attention to what they say and I quickly get a feel for who they are. I immediately notice when they say things about themselves that I’m sure they don’t truly believe. For instance, it’s fairly common to hear patients say that they weren’t sure if they had what it takes to lose weight and keep it off. When I challenge them I find out that they feel this way because of what others have said to them in the past or their previous failure to lose weight.
Many of us have times when our inner voice seems to be telling us things that may or may not be true. For those of us with weight issues, the self-talk is often consistently negative and then is reinforced by our negative behaviors. It is important for us to objectively evaluate what we are saying or thinking about ourselves so we can take action.
Some of the common themes are as follows:
1. I am a failure. This myth is perpetuated by the fact that we have tried to diet in the past and have been unsuccessful. We do not give ourselves credit for having tried or take into account what happened that led to the lack of success.
2. My goals are not realistic. For those who have had or are considering bariatric surgery, this lie can be reinforced by family and friends who are not knowledgeable. It is important to get the facts, understand the expectations and proceed from there. You can reach reasonable goals but it takes determination and self-confidence.
3. I am not worthy. You may feel that your life can’t change or that you don’t deserve a new life but you must realize that you are worthy. You deserve happiness and good health. Bariatric surgery or weight loss from a team of specialists can help you achieve these things.
So look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are not a failure, you do have realistic goals and you are worthy. Repeat this mantra as often as necessary and continue to work with your bariatric staff to succeed. We believe in you!