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Nov - Dec 2014
The Newsletter for Bariatric Patient Education and Motivation

Don't Let People Sabotage Your Progress

By Mary E. Collins, LCSW-R


Once you begin to win your battle against your weight and you tip the scale dramatically in your favor, what do you do about the people around you who are going to temp you during the holidays? These people may not be supportive of your success and you may not be sure how to handle the situation.


Keep in mind that, losing weight and living a healthy lifestyle is a process that takes time and effort that not everyone can see. Instead, friends, family, and colleagues may see you losing weight and your waistline getting smaller and often assume that it is a “piece of cake”. And for many, the holidays are a time to see you and they may not have seen you since last year!


While most people around you are happy for you, there are most likely a few who hold some resentment or jealousy. And even those who mean well may inadvertently sabotage the progress you make.


How do we learn to recognize when our progress is in jeopardy and how do we say “no” to situations or comments that undermine all of our effort and hard work?


Is there anyone in your life who is always inviting you out to lunch or dinner? How about bringing in holiday or baked goods? Temptation can be a hard thing to resist. Let’s face it. Doesn’t it seem as though just about everything during the holidays somehow involves food? It is polite and appropriate to acknowledge and thank the person for the invite or baked good, but then don’t be afraid to say “no” or set some boundaries on the place or accept the baked good to share with others.


Setting boundaries is a healthy way to protect yourself from sabotage. Remember, although it may be difficult, even if someone puts something tempting in front of you or tries to distract or deter you from your exercise routine, when all is said and done, you are the one in control. It is okay to say “no thank you,” “I will go, but I will have to split a meal or have at least half, if not more of my food wrapped to take home,” or “I will go with you, but I need to make time to exercise today.”


When someone tries to make you feel guilty or accuses you of doing something you aren’t or tells you that you are losing too much weight or says you’re getting too skinny when your doctor and healthcare team tell you otherwise, pay attention...this too can be a form of sabotage. Don’t allow others to distract you from staying healthy and happy during the holidays. You have worked hard for it and you deserve it!